PERFECT RELATIONSHIP

Oh my God, he proposed!

"YES!YES! I WILL MARRY YOU! PUT THE RING ON MY FINGER BEFORE  I CHANGE MY MIND!! OH MY!!"

Last night was one of the best nights of my life, I have waited all my life for the day a guy will finally perform the traditional rites of going down on his knees, humility and all shades of love written all over him as he asks in the sweetest voice-“WILL YOU MARRY ME?” (yes! I’m  overdramatic). But here I am, after waking up on the confused side of the bed, reminiscing on the decision I made.

But why does the world seem so blank since last night after the whole celebration at the club? Common, this should be the happiest moment of my life but why am I all moody about my positive answer, I haven’t even posted on INSTAGRAM yet!! There is an iota of doubt about the whole proposal thing but I can’t seem to define it. Don’t get me wrong, Deji is the man of my dreams but…

 My relationship with Deji for four years has been nothing but..(what’s that word)…YES!PERFECT!!
He was(still is) everything I wrote in my secret diary some years ago before I met him. He is a successful business magnate, tall, dark, handsome, faithful, religious, compassionate, intelligent, sexy, supportive, neat, naughty, cool, rich…..(Oh my God! I can’t say it all). He does not seem real sometimes.

I kept my emotional sanity for the first year because he is quite an unbelievable guy, he drives me insane in a good way, how could someone be so perfect????
 I thought he would change like others, I thought the love would fade, I thought he might fall in love with another lady like my ex did after 2 years but Deji never cease to surprise me daily, weekly, monthly and as each year rolls in.
He believes in my dreams, supports me financially, he is my emotional crutch, my ride or die, my mental aid, my bubble burster, my surprise manager, my body operating system(no doubt, Deji knows how and where to touch me), with Deji, I'm a COMPLETE WOMAN!!

But Deji has never raised his voice in an argument, never got angry with me or any other person, he says sorry even when I’m vividly at fault, he is not egoistic, he doesn’t debate my opinion even when it isn’t feasible, the mansion of sweet words resides in his mouth and he is an expert on how and when to use those words. Maybe he has flaws(definitely he has flaws) but he has never shown it!! I’m not ready to live with a man that hides his flaws.
 I don’t need to see a doctor, right? These are enviable characters but Deji is too good to be true to marry. I'm SCARED!!!

The society and "any movie-hood"  has warped the idea of people’s idea of what a relationship is. Most of us especially ladies set the standard of our love life based on movies we watch, books we read and what other couples portray on the internet.  Although our subconscious mind will always choose the perfect things and beings but it takes our conscious and sane mind to see the true side of all situations and that’s when decision-taking comes in.

The irony of this story is, this is the kind of man(and woman) we all want but it is unreal to see a perfect man or a perfect woman because indubitably no one is perfect. SO WHO IS DEJI???
There is a difference between a perfect relationship and a romantic relationship but in most cases, we want the perfect one or both which is not realistic. Many people spend lots of time waiting for MR. RIGHT AND MRS. RIGHT, I’m not saying it is not ideal to wait for that one person that will make our hearts flutter in a different way but what I’m saying is no one has gotten it all, no one is like a hero or heroine of a romantic movie well acted by script line memorization. A real relationship is about two imperfect beings who vow to love each other in a perfect way.
No man or lady out there is perfect but there is always someone who is imperfectly perfect for you, he or she might not have all the qualities but there is a ray of beautiful colour they reflect effortlessly that shows their truest and deepest emotions, don’t throw that away for a relationship you watched in a movie or read in a book.

4 years of flawlessness and sweetness is the definition of the fairy tale life we all want with our spouse, but is it real???  Even the teeth and tongue quarrel sometimes.

It is sweet to be in a relationship with a perfect being but it is sweeter and truer to be in a relationship with a real being.
This is an irony of love!!!

Hey! I’m still here!
What if it’s all a façade for four years? What if he changes? What if he is better at being a boyfriend than a husband? What if it is just a plan to lure me into marriage?
But what if Deji is real? What if that’s who he is and who he would continue to be?

Someone should save me!!!!!!!!

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